Single Mom: An extraordinary superhero

In a perfect world, A father should be the provider, while the mother is the nurturer. However this is not the case most of the time. In the current society, A lot of single mothers thrives to survive. This can be financially, emotionally and socially. Now let me breakdown to you some tips on how to stay right on track, even if things aren’t going our way.

Financially

Challenge: Being a “single mom” and not receiving any financial support from the father of the child is not easy as you think it would be. Making the ends meet for your child to eat, drink and sleep well are just some of the reasons why you need to find ways to create an income.

Tip: Think about 5 to 10 things that you are good at. For example, If you have the skill set to work at home, Apply for the jobs that will be able to sustain your financial needs. You can also ask a friend/relative if you can do something to help them and in return give you a monetary compensation. You need to be able to manage your time well so that you can fulfill both your job and being a mother day by day.

If your job requires you to be away from home, Have someone to look at your child while you are away. It should be someone whom you trust and not just anyone. It’s your child that we are talking about anyway. Seek help from your family or relatives so that you wouldn’t be burnt out. And also, Take a break whenever you can.

Emotionally

Challenge: Being a mother can be draining. This is a fact especially to us single moms who always give our best to fulfill our responsibilities as a mother. We may question ourselves if we are raising our children in the right way or if we need to work harder.

Tip: Fact of the matter is, No one can tell us how to perfectly raise a child since everyone is different. Give your best, Read some books (Guidance and motivational books) and you’ll be ok. Trust me when I say you’ll survive this.

Socially

Challenge: Attending parties and being socially active can mean a lot of stress for some single mothers. Some people may ask you upright “Where is the father of your child?” or “What happened between you and the father?” Yes some do care, but most of them just wants to know the story and worse, Judge us.

Tip: You do not have to attend every party or social events. Go to where you want to go. Be with someone who lift you up and make you feel better. Or if it cannot be resisted, Ignore. Ignore those people who judge you. Only you and all those people who cares knows the truth and how awesome you are making the ends meet.

“You made the right decision to raise your child. You are an extraordinary mother and your efforts are incomparable. Keep doing what you are doing. God will not give you something you cannot survive. If there are people who doesn’t believe in you, I do. There are people out there who does. Hang on, Heads up and Keep the faith!”